Why Most Relationships Don’t Last — And How True Healing Changes Everything

Relationships Today: Why They Feel So Fragile

In a conversation with a friend recently, we reflected on how fluid and transient relationships have become today. It's true — nothing in this world is permanent. Yet so many people enter relationships thinking, "This is it. My forever person. My happy ending."

When those relationships end, the heartbreak is devastating. Clients often tell me, "I thought we were going to grow old together," only to be left picking up the pieces when things don't work out. And heartbreak today feels even more intense because relationships have become shorter, more fragile, and, honestly, more fickle.

But why? Are people becoming worse? Are relationships doomed?

Not exactly.

The Real Reason Relationships Fall Apart

I've seen it time and time again — both in my clients' lives and my own experiences: We attract people into our lives based on our karmic stage at that moment.

Relationships are not just random accidents. They're mirrors of what’s happening within us. They're karmic encounters, designed to teach us about the emotional wounds, unresolved traumas, and soul lessons we need to heal.

For example, I worked with a client recently who was going through a painful divorce after 25 years of marriage. During her divorce, she found comfort in a friend who was also unhappy in his marriage. They started an affair.

But as time passed, she realized he carried the same qualities as her ex-husband — the very patterns she was trying to escape. She wasn't falling in love with a new soulmate. She was meeting another reflection of her unresolved pain.

When We Seek Healing Through Another Person

We don't attract partners to save us.We attract them to show us what still needs healing inside ourselves.

When you're still wounded, still hurting, and you pull someone into your life to "save" you from your emotions, you are not finding a soulmate. You are finding a trauma buddy — someone vibrating at the same level of hurt and confusion.

At first, it feels comforting. It feels like destiny.But sooner or later, you’ll look in the mirror they hold up to you and think, "I don't like this."Except — it’s not really them you don't like. It's the parts of yourself that you haven't healed yet.

Why No One Is "Meant" To Stay Forever

After working with hundreds of clients over the years and observing countless marriages and long-term relationships, here’s a difficult but freeing truth:

👉 No one is meant to stay in your life forever unless both of you are independently healing, growing, and evolving.

If you (and your partner) work through your personal karmas — your wounds, your anger, your childhood baggage — you can journey alongside each other for a long time.But if either of you refuses to do the inner work, the relationship becomes strained, resentful, or breaks apart entirely.

And that’s not fate being cruel. That’s karma doing its work.

The Biggest Mistake We Make in Relationships

Most people enter relationships thinking:

• "This person is going to make me happy."

• "This person will complete me."

• "This person will heal my brokenness."

  
  

This mindset is the #1 setup for heartbreak.

The truth is:

🌸 No one can complete you.

🌸 No one can fix your wounds.

🌸 No one can save you from yourself.

The only true source of lasting love and peace is your connection to Source Energy, to God, to the Divine.

You must be whole first. When you find happiness within yourself, you no longer need someone to fill a void — you simply want to share your fullness with someone who is also whole.

Real relationships are not 50/50. They are 100/100. Two complete people, giving from a place of abundance — not from a place of lack.

Why Being Single Is a Blessing (Even If It Doesn't Feel Like It)

If you're single right now, it’s not a punishment. It’s a sacred opportunity.

The Divine is giving you the time to heal — to fix your trauma, to work through your karma, to strengthen your connection to yourself and to the Divine — so that when your next partner arrives, you won't be repeating the same old painful patterns.

Use this time wisely:

• Heal your insecurities.

• Work through your childhood wounds.

• Fill your own emotional cup first.

  
  

Because when you heal yourself, you stop attracting trauma partners. You start attracting people who are whole, peaceful, and evolved — just like you are becoming.

Final Thoughts: Conscious Love Is the Only Real Love

Being conscious in love means realizing:

💖 No one else is responsible for your happiness.

💖 True love starts with your connection to the Divine.

💖 Relationships thrive when two whole people choose to grow together — not fix each other.

The next time you think about finding your "happy ever after," remember: The real happy ever after is with yourself.

The real soul connection is with the Divine.

Everything else flows from that.