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Why most relationships fail and how to fix them

The Honeymoon Phase as we all know it, is the best phase in any relationship. There is an abundance of love, romance and the overall feel-good emotions between partners. This phase usually occurs early on in the relationship, when things are fresh and new. There is a great sense of adventure and the thought of getting to know the nitty-gritty of your lover, excites you!

But sadly, two or three months down the line, your relationship starts to head downhill. The once frequent phone calls for no reason, chocolate just because, and cute surprises, turn into troublesome nuisances and you feel utterly bored in the relationship.

This is because the excitement that was once there slowly starts to diminish. The love that you once shared becomes too familiar and you start taking your lover for granted. Most relationships fail, not because there is no longer love between two people, but rather because they’ve forgotten why they got into the relationship in the first place.

No relationship is perfect. None. Every couple goes through tumultuous periods where emotions run high and you want to call it quits. But successful relationships are those built on friendship and understanding. 

If you go into a relationship expecting it to always be hunky-dory, you are going to be in for a rude awakening. Relationships do get boring. They do get stale. But in order to make them work, we have to realize what role we play in making that bond strong. 

The truth is, you can never know a person entirely. There are always elements left to discover. Things that may surprise you about your partner. For your relationship to progress, you must tap into those hidden treasures, and encourage your partner to do the same with you. That being said, a relationship should never be one-sided. It definitely takes equal role play. And if you find yourself stuck in a relationship where you find yourself doing all the work and getting nothing in return, no one can ask you to stay stuck in it. By all means, free yourself and move on. You deserve happiness. 

But if your relationship can be saved, try and do that first. 

Communicate. Express how you feel in an honest, clear way. You cannot expect your lover to read your mind, no matter how long you’ve been together. Problems get solved only when we speak up and voice ourselves. 

One thing you have to keep in mind however, is that, you cannot change another person. You cannot make them love you if they don’t. And a love that’s forced never results in happiness. 

If you put your feelings out there, and you still see no change, it may be time for you to move on.

If you talk things through with your partner and they are willing to make changes in improving your relationship, that is fantastic. Always remember that you both are equally responsible for making your relationship work. Do not expect your partner to do all the work. Relationships take work. But when you work together, you can achieve the most harmonious, loving relationship possible, The key to a long lasting relationship is understanding, mutual respect and patience. When there is friendship, love follows with ease.